A good friend of mine, Nick of TheJettsons posed this question to me today:
"Ok, personal question: what do you think comes first and is one greater than the other?"
If you don't know Nick, you need to meet him (pick his brain here) - this dude can make you think about the unthinkable. I'm sure people have considered these things before, but still. Which comes first: a good relationship or a good career? Is a good career and no relationship better than no career and a good relationship?
My take on it all... it's all relative. Some people are so career-oriented, they shirk all the relationships they once had and don't look to find any that don't begin with the word "business". Some of the biggest and best have done it all by themselves - then looked to find someone who is "in it for the money, err, love of the person". Others cannot live without love - constantly making sure those around them are taken care of, smother their family and significant other with all of their heart. So what if they work as a minimum wage junkie, bouncing from place to place - making sure their every penny of that $7.25 (in Maryland) is in their pocket. Right?
Whether you're a lifer in a career or a lifer in a relationship, you have to find your own balance and make sure it is comfortable for you. Don't mope around about how you hate your dead-end job; climb that employment ladder! Complaining about how you can't find "the one" won't make that person fall in your lap; better yourself and go get him/her!
Whether you're a lifer in a career or a lifer in a relationship, you have to find your own balance and make sure it is comfortable for you. Don't mope around about how you hate your dead-end job; climb that employment ladder! Complaining about how you can't find "the one" won't make that person fall in your lap; better yourself and go get him/her!
As far as relationships and employment go: Find that one which you love to do.
Only you
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| Which would you prefer? |
Thoughts?
Balance is essential. I feel that some people are very impatient when it comes to relationships and careers. As a man, you need to get that career in order because at the end of the day, your relationship will suffer if you dont have your financial house in order. She may love you, but she will leave you. This in-turn is an opportunity for you to grow because an immature person will become bitter towards women... which is somewhat understandable because what man doesn't want a woman who will stick by him and believe in him? When a woman leaves a man because his financial house isn't in order, it sparks concerns such as... damn, what if I had it all together and one day it all fell apart? Will a woman leave me then? Did she even love me? Idk man, this is a touchy subject for me, but it is an important one. Get your money because you cannot make someone else happy if you yourself aren't. Not saying that money buys happiness, but being able to support yourself and your family by doing what you love, does.
ReplyDeleteThis is a good topic man..I discuss similar issues with friends a lot. I do think its all relative, like u said. It also depends on the person..and what place s/he is in their life. People's goals change as they age and focuses shift accordingly. All this said, I don't think the majority of people gravitate toward any one extreme. I think the general idea is to keep a healthy balance between the two..people just suck at doing it
ReplyDeleteAlso, as a man, I agree 100% with what DEEJAYBOONE.COM said above...that is my exact outlook on money vs. relationships. The cliche is "money doesn't buy happiness," but it def does show a level of personal stability, and women seem to want that in a grown man. So it's most men's intent to establish most if not all things in their career prior to completely settling down in a relationship.
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