So you know that you want work. You’re tired of sitting on the couch and reading up on Facebook and Twitter about how awesome someone’s new gig is going or how another person could not be happier than they are in their current position… you want some of that! All these Instagrams and statuses – those will be YOUR photos and words soon, right? Right!
One issue there…
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| Which one do you want...? |
You mad because it’s Cuffin’ Season and everybody except you
got a boo? Or do you REALLY want to get into a relationship? Let’s weigh the
pros and cons of the different types of relationships out there.
Temp work – aka “Cuffin’ Season”
Maybe you need a one-nighter or something to tide you over
until you get that mindset out of your head. Need someone to occupy you until
you move on – literally or otherwise – or you’re not entirely prepared to get
into a big time gig. Temp work may be for you. There are plenty of temp
agencies (dating sites, singles’ nights, etc) out there – but watch out for
those! As many temp jobs you may find – there are plenty of men and women
looking for temp-to-hire… aka to cuff you in the long run.
- The pros: you can come and go as you please. No strings, if you will. Try it out without major investment.
- The cons: temp-to-hire’s happen more often than not – be weary of your own investment in the situation. If you can spin it into a longer-term gig, go for it – but if it’s just a fling or for the season, don’t push it.
Part time – aka Short-term dating
You’ve been out the game for a while. You want to get your
feet wet again. Or maybe you don’t have the experience you feel you need to be truly
effective in the ideal situation. Don’t want to feel used like a temp, but can’t
imagine putting a ring on it at this point in life? Part time – aka short-term
dating – is right up your alley. While most will say “I would not get into a
relationship with a person unless I see myself with them for a long time”, how
many of those relationships actually lead to long-term commitment? Go into
things with an open mind and a half-full cup. Your glass may runneth over with
the right combination… or someone may “have a glass of water with [their]
thirsty ass” (shout out Wale).
- The pros: get reacquainted with the idea of commitment. Learn what really works for you and what doesn’t in a relationship. Get your resume tweaked.
- The cons: there may be a feeling of limbo – deciding whether to “be content” and turn the gig into a full timer or to test the market and see what better things may be out there. Also, your partner may be doing the same thing. Again, there’s no ring on it… so be ready for open competition.
Full time – aka Long-term dating
Nope! Done are you with these high-risk low-reward gigs. You’re
at the point in your life where you need not search any longer; the next one
will be THE ONE. Or you’re not comfortable with bouncing around from person to
person or situation to situation… you’re flexible and feel, with the right
individual, the two of you can grow and flourish. Why not? The full time
aspirations are in full effect. “Long as you have your suit and tie” (I see you, JT), you should garner the attention of people prepared to put their property
proper feet forward! Scan all those resumes, have those interviews – it may
take a while but, with due diligence, the “rest of your life”r will come to
fruition!
- The pros: once you find one, you should have nothing to worry about! No more shopping around or complaining about where he/she is – you have them; now everyone wants to be like you.
- The cons: you have to realize that there is no more comparison, no more open position, none of that. Work with that partner of yours to make it work. Full time acknowledges that you probably cannot let up off the gas. Divorce rates are high. Don’t add to them.
“The Resume” does not confirm nor deny the successes or failures of said
advice. If it DOES work, though… be sure to slide us some credit.
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