So. You've read some posts. Voted on a poll or two. Heck, you may have even commented on some of the writing. I applaud your efforts and appreciate your following/clicking/referring. Last post, I made note of how some individuals feel that a relationship IS work. Now I want to talk about if "The Resume" can work to make finding a relationship feel... less so.
Did you write your "resume"? If you have no idea what I'm talking about, click here to [re]acquaint yourself. If you did write that resume, let us figure out its feasibility.
What do you want out of a relationship? Options range from marriage to a one-night-stand. Friends with benefits, long term relationships, you name it - you can plan for it. No two Resumes are made alike.
Talking to a family member about his woes with women. He was mad at himself for not going smack at some female classmates. I said "well, what is it you want?" - he tells me "just to smash 'em" - after some details are shared, it comes to light that he was presenting himself with a relationship demeanor when, in actuality, he just wants some relations. He was not prepared to "test the job market". I talked to him some more and he feels he has himself figured out.
What's that? What's "testing the job market"? Glad you asked.
When a prospective employee wants to find ideal work, they clean up nice, break out the fancy paper and go out job hunting! Well, while the unemployment rate is only 8.1%, as of the end of 2011, the marriage rate in the US is only 51% (thanks, HP). That said, what's the likelihood that you will find a single man/woman to engage - it's LITERALLY 1 out of 2. Even still, what's to say the person you run into is ready for some "heavy stuff"? Plan accordingly. Here are some ideas:
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Did you write your "resume"? If you have no idea what I'm talking about, click here to [re]acquaint yourself. If you did write that resume, let us figure out its feasibility.
What do you want out of a relationship? Options range from marriage to a one-night-stand. Friends with benefits, long term relationships, you name it - you can plan for it. No two Resumes are made alike.
Talking to a family member about his woes with women. He was mad at himself for not going smack at some female classmates. I said "well, what is it you want?" - he tells me "just to smash 'em" - after some details are shared, it comes to light that he was presenting himself with a relationship demeanor when, in actuality, he just wants some relations. He was not prepared to "test the job market". I talked to him some more and he feels he has himself figured out.
What's that? What's "testing the job market"? Glad you asked.
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When a prospective employee wants to find ideal work, they clean up nice, break out the fancy paper and go out job hunting! Well, while the unemployment rate is only 8.1%, as of the end of 2011, the marriage rate in the US is only 51% (thanks, HP). That said, what's the likelihood that you will find a single man/woman to engage - it's LITERALLY 1 out of 2. Even still, what's to say the person you run into is ready for some "heavy stuff"? Plan accordingly. Here are some ideas:
- Do NOT be scared to fail. As I have heard said, and like to say myself, "the worst that can happen is they say 'no'." With such underlying fear of failure, many cease to realize that the world does not end with rejection. I know from experience.
- Value your successes! You might not have found "the one" yet, but who knows what experiences you may have with that someone you have now engaged in conversation, etc. It has been said "to catch more fish, cast a wider net" - don't throw all of the small catches back in the water. Speaking of -
- Compromise is not a bad thing. That catch might have gotten away, but maybe this guy has a hidden talent you're fond of. That girl whose number you just got may make your favorite meal like a 5-star chef - on her off day. Let them rock in your phone for a minute.
- Keep things in perspective. A one-nighter might be a good friend-with-benefits - but do remember: you can't turn a hoe into a housewife/househusband. Don't force matters. If it works out, it works out - if it doesn't, see #1 on this list.
- Stay well! Don't settle on the wine-o because you need someone to go places with. Condoning a verbally abusive someone because they throw down in the bed probably won't work out for you. Your well-being is paramount when dealing with the wild blue.
There are plenty more things that you can add to the list (and I encourage you to do in the comments). Also, check out the lovely lady who helped me throw some of the things on the list, Rayven! If you need some help grabbing this stuff by the balls, she'll give you the cahones.
"The Resume". Brought you by our friends at Sesame Street. And the number 12.
